Insecure Writer’s Support Group

06 Feb

January was definitely a hard month for me as far as writing. I didn’t reach some of the goals I set for myself but that is okay. It was hard to get motivated each day to write there were some days I didn’t write anything at all but would get good word counts the next day or the day after. I got frustrated with myself. I finally had to take a break and regroup and toward the end of the month numbers started picking up and I have the first few chapters and outline of a new series started. Maybe changing things and writing about something new helped to give me the motivation I needed.

I realized I had added too much stress on myself to meet daily goals that just weren’t being achieved. I think when I did that it stopped being a great thing I loved to do everyday and started being a chore that I didn’t want to do. Once I sat down and changed the daily and monthly goals around I was able to write.

February is a new month and a time for new goals. I plan to try and meet those goals this month. I have made a promise to myself for February. I will not let myself get frustrated if there are days where I don’t meet goals I have set for that day. Things happen that are out of your control and when that happens you have to go with the flow.

My advice for writers this month is to have fun with what you are writing. Don’t let little things stress you out. If you need to take a break for a bit then come back to it. Your character’s world will be there waiting for you when you are ready to dive into it again.


Posted by on 02/06/2013 in A Creative Mind Blog



27 responses to “Insecure Writer’s Support Group

  1. Jai

    02/06/2013 at 5:02 pm

    Goal for February. More fun!! I like it.

    • sjledge2

      02/06/2013 at 5:51 pm

      Thanks for stopping by Jai. I hope it is fun in February. If I can stick to the goals I have set for myself it should be. 🙂

  2. Quanie Mitchell

    02/06/2013 at 5:04 pm

    Hi Diane, I can identify with this! So many times I get frustrated with myself for not meeting goals when really, I should accept the fact that 1. I’m not perfect, and 2. sometimes the story needs time to breathe so that you can go back to it later with fresh eyes. There is nothing wrong with giving your story a break and coming back to it reinvigorated. We are hard on ourselves sometimes, but writing a novel is hard. We should also learn to give ourselves a break!

    • sjledge2

      02/06/2013 at 5:54 pm

      Hi Quanie, Thanks for stopping by. I know I had to learn those things the hard way. Once I realized that it is okay to take a break I started writing more. I feel I have become a better writer because of it. 🙂

  3. Mencara

    02/06/2013 at 7:51 pm

    Halfway through NaNoWriMo it starts to feel like the worst job in the world and you think of a million and two things you don’t even like doing that suddenly seem important (I can’t write, I’ve got to degrease the oven hood). For me I’ve found I have to trick my brain.

    I tell myself periodically, “You can’t write this week. This is a week for getting chores and all the junk done that you neglect.” The more I’m not supposed to write, the more inspiration I get and the more my body tries to plant inself in the computer chair. Maybe I’m just contrary but it’s a great motivator.

    • sjledge2

      02/06/2013 at 9:23 pm

      I know what you mean. I start NaNoWriMo and by the time I get to the middle of the month I feel like just doing something else instead but I make myself see it through to the end. The way I get over it is to meet up with friends who are writers and do a write in. That helps me a lot.

      Good luck with your writing. 🙂

  4. MPax (@mpax1)

    02/06/2013 at 8:00 pm

    Do what works best for you. We all have our own process and don’t get on yourself for having days when you’re just not up to it. It happens. I’m glad you’re going to go softer on yourself. 🙂

    • sjledge2

      02/06/2013 at 9:21 pm

      Thanks for stopping by. That is so true. I started setting up smaller goals and such for myself near the end of the month and felt better about getting them done than I had earlier in the month. The larger goals I had set were the ones that were frustrating me then I rearranged things and it works a lot better now. 🙂

  5. E.Arroyo

    02/06/2013 at 9:05 pm

    I totally felt the same way. It’s so different when you’re working on a deadline. Sometimes I have to let it go to get the creativity flowing but be rigid in my production. IDK we’ll see how it works out . =)

    • sjledge2

      02/06/2013 at 9:29 pm

      Thanks for stopping by. That’s so true about deadlines. Good luck with your writing. 🙂

  6. doreenb8

    02/07/2013 at 12:35 am

    Hi, I am visiting via the IWSG. I always fall off of my goals in December and January and feel so stressed to get back on track in February. I’m not there yet, but feeling good about a big finish!

    • sjledge2

      02/07/2013 at 12:39 am

      Hi, thanks for stopping by. I had that happen this year. I’m starting to get back on track too. Good luck with your writing. 🙂

  7. lexacain

    02/07/2013 at 1:23 am

    It’s important not to stress out about writing. I got too stressed working on a novel last year, and after I finished it, I took a 5-month break (still going on). Welcome to the group, and good luck! 🙂

    • sjledge2

      02/07/2013 at 2:24 am

      Hi, thanks for stopping by. I have learned that over the last few months. I took part in NaNo last year for the first time and stressed myself out trying to get to the 50,000 word goal. I didn’t look at the stuff I wrote again until January.
      I changed my monthly goals because of it and now write words everyday and am happy whether I hit my goal for that day or not. Good luck to you as well. 🙂

  8. MAJK (@Safireblade)

    02/07/2013 at 1:35 am

    I am finding that I have to set a time for writing and make is a part of a daily routine. That doesn’t work for everyone but it seems to be helping me right now. I completely empathize with the feeling of no matter how much you want to write you find yourself struggling.

    It’s good to see you found a way to work around it. Too much pressure is never good so if going a bit easier on yourself lets the creativity flow then that is the right direction for you.

    • sjledge2

      02/07/2013 at 2:21 am

      Hi, I write at different times of the day. It depends on what else is going on that day. I want to find a time of day that works for me and I get the most out of my writing. I will get there eventually. I have started letting my creativity flow as it should without stress if I can possibly help it. Good luck with your writing. 🙂

  9. spunkonastick

    02/07/2013 at 11:06 am

    When you don’t hit a goal, don’t stress. Just reset it for the next day.

    • sjledge2

      02/07/2013 at 12:04 pm

      Hi, that’s what I’m doing now. After feeling frustrated for most of last month. I have reworked my goals and if I don’t meet them I look at the next day’s and make changes. 🙂

  10. Angeline

    02/07/2013 at 8:14 pm

    Hope you get into your stride in February. I’m also failing at all my goals so far this year, but you’re right; enjoying it is way more important! Welcome to IWSG.

    • sjledge2

      02/07/2013 at 8:40 pm

      Hi Angeline, Thanks for stopping by and welcoming me to IWSG. I’m trying to keep my goals and it’s hard. Good luck with your writing. 🙂

  11. Rebecca Bradley

    02/08/2013 at 8:53 am

    I think this is great advice. Having too huge a mountain to climb, really slows us down. Turning it into smaller hills to amble over, well, that seems doable, Have a great February!

    • sjledge2

      02/08/2013 at 10:07 am

      Hi Rebecca, Thanks. I totally agree with you about turning things into smaller doable goals it makes for having a better time doing what you love to do. Have a great day!

  12. Candilynn Fite-Writer

    02/08/2013 at 7:30 pm

    I find it easier to visit WordPress blogs through facebook. My blog is I’m hopping over from Alex’s IWSG list, and wanted to wish you a warm welcome!! Goals, especially daily are tough for me. I try to set my goals, not by word count, but by time. It seems a bit easier for me that way. Nice to meet you!

    • sjledge2

      02/08/2013 at 8:05 pm

      Hi, thanks for stopping by and for the warm welcome to IWSG. I set mine by word count right now I might try setting by time and see how that works. Nice to meet you as well. 🙂

  13. Lynda R Young

    02/12/2013 at 5:14 am

    Remembering to enjoy our writing is the best advice 🙂

    • sjledge2

      02/12/2013 at 11:55 am

      Hi Lynda, thanks for stopping by. That is so true. I try to live by that everyday when I write. 🙂


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